things i've learned about people, myself included

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as time goes on, i think we, as human, learn a little more about humans each year. they are "a-ha" moments that are really no brainers, but they come to us after time. you know them innately, yet they are shown to you through different scenarios. you know those times?

i've learned:

1. the more someone talks about what they are, the more they are not. it most likely means they are trying to convince themselves and you that they are something that they just aren't. people who are that way....just are.

2. that just because you are a certain way towards someone, that doesn't mean that they will be the same to you. meaning, sometimes, things happen....you can be crappy to someone and that person can love you so unconditionally, that they continually are good to you. or vice versa.

3. that i feel very much alone in many things. i don't know if this has to do with being an only child, but i never felt this way when i was little.

4. that sometimes, because i'm a fixer and listener of people and situations, that people don't think that i need the same thing.

5. that you can say something a million times, but it all is nothing, unless you ACT that way.

6. that people who say that they "do things in their own time and way" really, just don't want to be told what to do, and the more you battle with them about it, they will NOT do it...just to "show" you.

7. lying is toxic, but excuses are worse

8. everyone deserves to be told that they are loved and the reasons why by the person whom they are spending the rest of their lives with, at least once. if you have not heard these things from them, i personally think that's settling. if that person has a "hard time" saying these things, that's an excuse...see #7. tell them to suck it up.

what are the things you've learned?