show me what you are!

i don't know if this rings true for anyone else, but i have found that one of my big preferences in life is to be shown that someone is some way, rather than them telling me that they are. for some reason, i tend to be much more believing of someone that way. i tend to

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trust, and honestly and truly believe those situations.

example: when i have read things that friends, bloggers, or family members have written trying explicitly to tell me that they are fine, or they have moved on from something, or have gotten over someone...i, for some reason, never believe it. and more times than not, they'll go through a "relapse" of sorts shortly thereafter. i say this is true for myself as well. i think for many years, i thought about things nonstop...all the while, telling people that i did not. maybe it was a "fake it til you make it" mentality. but now, i see, i plain wasn't being honest with them, or myself.

it's kind of the same way i view extremists...of any kind. when something is black and white, or is described as a definite...i know it's not the truth.

i had a person in my life that spouted off how wonderful he was, how much he knew, and how great he was. i believed it...and i think other people did too. i got comments all the time that went like this: "wow, _____ is either the greatest person i have ever met, and the most talented, or he is full of crap" (note to self and readers: RUN if you encounter someone like this). i just thought that i had gotten lucky to get a gem of a person like that.

if you are wonderful...people will know. it eminates through your pores, it attracts people to you, and makes your life a big karmatic bliss. if not, you're only fooling yourself.