you think you know someone....

i can't believe it. i just got news that someone that i have known for years, drinks like a fish. i had NO idea. i mean, i couldn't possibly be more bowled over by this news than...well...just about anything. i don't mean, drinks like a fish in the good way. but you know....knock yourself out, drinks too much. as shocking as this all is, what i find myself saying, is that "this explains a lot".

i have only had one other instance to even compare this to...i may have spoken about it before, but i have not, since today,had another incident "get" to me as much.

i had a friend who was a very good friend. i'd say she knew the very most about me than anyone had. we had ups and downs...ins and outs. but she was a friend and a friend that didn't get mad when we put cat reindeer antlers on her head or drew penises on her face while she was passed out.

she got married, to an equally as wonderful guy. but even more so. this guy treated her like gold and not because he had to. he just did and it came naturally to him. she had never had anything like that happen to her. i used to wonder, "how on earth did she get that lucky?"

they moved to CO and strangely enough,i never saw them. this was weird...because she was one of those needy friends...not in a bad way, but in the "when i move there we are spending all of our time together" kind of way. but no...that's not at all the way it was.

she was doing weird things...like staying out all night with her 20-something co-workers and getting wasted. she took a trip to visit her family without the husband and on her way back, she got a call of some sort.

her husband had found pictures on their computer of her cheating...with the trainer that she had asked him to hire so that she could be in shape for the wedding.

THAT one, my friends, threw me for a loop. i couldn't support her in the way that she wanted, which was to tell her that it was o.k. that she did that...i just couldn't. what i could do, however, was to help her get her life in order, so that she could move out, as she was being asked to do. she didn't want that. and so, instead of calling me when she got back to town a few weeks later to get the remainder of her things, she remained mad at me and we have not spoken since.

i've stayed friends with the husband. he really is a gem, and is not living a life that is full and deceit free.

but that is one instance where i was sure that i knew someone...and they definitely proved me wrong.