i sat in last night on an adoption webinar put on through this agency that we are likely going to use when the time comes.
it was really cool, lots of new information for me, even though, i have worked in adoption in various settings throughout the years.
times are changing and right now, the wait time, if we were to apply, would be 3 years, more or less. this is fine with us....we really don't want to have a child for about 4 to 5 years anyway.
what i found to be completely off the wall, crazy, insane, is that i have to wait til i have been married for 5 years in order to apply. this is because and only because, i have been married before. i get the stability issue and i absolutely honor the fact that people who have never been married before must be married for 2 years before they can adopt.
yes, i was married before...shoot me. it was, only 6 months, of my life and by god, i understand that it was a big deal, but 5 YEARS. this puts our minimum time frame to 8 years.
anyway, this isn't what floored me. what was, was that when we were discussing things that are requirements for adoption, such as, 1. not having surgery in the year that you adopt, 2. not getting pregnant while you are waiting., 3. not having major depression, 4. not taking meds for depression or anxiety, it was suggested that you LIE. o.k., not lie, but just don't tell, and furthermore you are protected by HIPA laws, so the adoption agency cannot prove it.
(one more observation) you can have up to 3 DUI's on your record and still adopt.
and i'm the criminal for being married and realizing right away it wasn't going to work.
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In other news, the rest of the webinar was really cool and very exciting. i realize this is a long ways off, but it really is a neat idea to have in my head.
i'm off to the chiropractor....i hurt my leg running the other day and haven't been able to since. this, injury, however, has prompted me to discover YOGA! i went to my first class the other night and i think i could be hooked.
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i sat in last night on an adoption webinar put on through this agency that we are likely going to use when the time comes.
it was really cool, lots of new information for me, even though, i have worked in adoption in various settings throughout the years.
times are changing and right now, the wait time, if we were to apply, would be 3 years, more or less. this is fine with us....we really don't want to have a child for about 4 to 5 years anyway.
what i found to be completely off the wall, crazy, insane, is that i have to wait til i have been married for 5 years in order to apply. this is because and only because, i have been married before. i get the stability issue and i absolutely honor the fact that people who have never been married before must be married for 2 years before they can adopt.
yes, i was married before...shoot me. it was, only 6 months, of my life and by god, i understand that it was a big deal, but 5 YEARS. this puts our minimum time frame to 8 years.
anyway, this isn't what floored me. what was, was that when we were discussing things that are requirements for adoption, such as, 1. not having surgery in the year that you adopt, 2. not getting pregnant while you are waiting., 3. not having major depression, 4. not taking meds for depression or anxiety, it was suggested that you LIE. o.k., not lie, but just don't tell, and furthermore you are protected by HIPA laws, so the adoption agency cannot prove it.
(one more observation) you can have up to 3 DUI's on your record and still adopt.
and i'm the criminal for being married and realizing right away it wasn't going to work.
________________________________________________________________
In other news, the rest of the webinar was really cool and very exciting. i realize this is a long ways off, but it really is a neat idea to have in my head.
i'm off to the chiropractor....i hurt my leg running the other day and haven't been able to since. this, injury, however, has prompted me to discover YOGA! i went to my first class the other night and i think i could be hooked.
it was really cool, lots of new information for me, even though, i have worked in adoption in various settings throughout the years.
times are changing and right now, the wait time, if we were to apply, would be 3 years, more or less. this is fine with us....we really don't want to have a child for about 4 to 5 years anyway.
what i found to be completely off the wall, crazy, insane, is that i have to wait til i have been married for 5 years in order to apply. this is because and only because, i have been married before. i get the stability issue and i absolutely honor the fact that people who have never been married before must be married for 2 years before they can adopt.
yes, i was married before...shoot me. it was, only 6 months, of my life and by god, i understand that it was a big deal, but 5 YEARS. this puts our minimum time frame to 8 years.
anyway, this isn't what floored me. what was, was that when we were discussing things that are requirements for adoption, such as, 1. not having surgery in the year that you adopt, 2. not getting pregnant while you are waiting., 3. not having major depression, 4. not taking meds for depression or anxiety, it was suggested that you LIE. o.k., not lie, but just don't tell, and furthermore you are protected by HIPA laws, so the adoption agency cannot prove it.
(one more observation) you can have up to 3 DUI's on your record and still adopt.
and i'm the criminal for being married and realizing right away it wasn't going to work.
________________________________________________________________
In other news, the rest of the webinar was really cool and very exciting. i realize this is a long ways off, but it really is a neat idea to have in my head.
i'm off to the chiropractor....i hurt my leg running the other day and haven't been able to since. this, injury, however, has prompted me to discover YOGA! i went to my first class the other night and i think i could be hooked.
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